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Mr. BlairNobody is butting into your 'geneology.' You are fully within your rights to assert your privacy, as we have all agreed to respect that as members on this group. In fact, this group has voted to CONDEMN the action of an advocate publishing personal identifying information about another advocate, which is now considered to be the official policy in this movement. However, Effie also has a legitimate concern about you having a 'spokesperson' or, as Kathy described it, an 'advocate.' I share this concern.First - although Kathy appears to have identified herself on this group, we only have her word and a recent disclosure which indicates she is using her middle name and maiden name. Unlike the Dutkiewicz's, or Dorothy Kernaghen-Baez, or Renee Cygan, or Bill Tower (which proof has already been published on this group), or - whoops! - YOU (see proof below), we fully support her right to do this in protection of her online privacy and have no desire to intrude upon that privacy by publishing her first name or married name. However, unlike me and Effie who employed the IDENTICAL online privacy protections (which privacy has been violated by the aforementioned individuals and others associating with them) that Kathy is now asserting, Kathy has NOT provided anyone with valid contact information e.g. phone number or address. The consequence of exercising this level of anonymity is that I and others may choose to limit the level of trust we extend to this person. Since there is still the possibility that Kathy is not who she says she is, taken in conjuction with her appalling conduct that got her moderated on this group, I choose not to trust her. End of discussion. Second - One of the major problems within this movement that has caused so much divisiveness is the practice of taking gripes to the groups instead of directly to the person one has a gripe with and attempting to resolve the dispute. The practice of behind the back complaints, attacks and defamation has been extremely disruptive and destructive, not to mention immature, unprofessional and vindictive. This group was created to provide a structured and safe forum where such gripes could be brought by the offended individual directly to the individual who allegedly offended. Communication will be faciliated to resolve the gripe without the attendant flaming and attacks which disrupt the business of other groups. Also, since the aggrieved individual would be communicating DIRECTLY WITH the alleged offender AND providing PROOF of the offense, there would a greatly reduced potential for miscommunication and a greatly improved possibility of resolution. Your attempts to employ Kathy as your representative are inconsistent with the purpose and procedure of this group. It will NOT be permitted in this forum. YOU bring YOUR issues, Kathy brings HER issues. Or don't bring your issues with me to me. I don't particularily care. If you bring them, I will not ignore them and we will both conduct ourselves according the rules of this group . . .but I will NOT address any issues with ANY intermediary. End of discussion. Third - I have been subjected to years of escalating abuse, threats and harassment in prodigious quantities in my personal email. I have published some examples of that on this group. Therefore, I will NOT be communicating privately, secretly, backchannel with ANYONE who has publicly defamed me, abused or threatened me, violated my online privacy, TURNED ME IN TO A STATE AGENCY, misappropriated my intellectual property or threatened to sue me. I am AVAILABLE for any communication ON THIS GROUP. Bring your issues to me, here, publicly. This will serve for your protection as well as mine. If you (collective you, not necessarily Mr. Blair specifically) can't get through to my private email, it is because I have probably BLOCKED your email addy due to past abuse, threats, defamation, harassment, threats of lawsuit or misappropriation of my intellectual property. I am NOT anyone's punching bag and I'm disgusted and fed up with certain advocates treating me like I am. These are MY boundaries, and I will enforce them. Whether you will respect them or not is entirely up to you. Suzanne
